17 Oct How To Be A Great Friend

We all want to help. When a friend shares a challenge, an upset, a complaint, it’s natural to jump into support mode. Before even a moment passes, we jump in with our empathy, affirmation, or (most often) advice.

Sometimes this is just the thing. But usually, because we’re not mind readers, it misses the boat. Our friend is left a little let down, discordant, even if unable to figure out why.

The best way to be of service to a friend who shares their distress with you is to pause, take a breath, and say something like. “Thanks for sharing this with me.

I’m here for you. How would you most like for me to respond?”

When you offer to customize your caring in such a way, it does two key things. First, it gives your friend the chance to reflect upon what, outside of habit, would indeed be the most helpful.

Second, it creates a resonance between you that is generous, spacious, and free of any presumption. In such a field, we’re all best able to shine.

The next time a friend reaches out to you, consider giving this a try. And please let me know know how it goes.